本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛What causes bliss and euphoria of love to turn into conflict and hatred was a mystery to me, though I had several similar experiences in the past. The usual explanation was things changed and people changed too. I was not quite satisfied with the answer.
“The Celestine Prophecy” by James Redfield gave a very convincing explanation. It is about C and O.
In the early stage of love, we all feel energetic and elated. The sky is higher and the grass is greener. We feel our hearts beat together and we can do lots of extraordinary things. When the incredible high wears off, we get down to the ground and start a “real life”. After one year, seven years or fifteen years, the relationship gets boring, dull and colorless if it hasn't already turned into conflict. For some people, the other person whom they chose and loved becomes an enemy.
Why does it happen?
According to his theory, everything in the world is all energy in different form, the same with human beings. We all need energy to sustain our being.
“We are very susceptible to a person of the opposite sex, some other circle half complete, like the letter C, coming up and joining with us-completing the circle that way, and giving us a burst of euphoria and energy that feels like the wholeness that a full connection with the universe produces.”
We need two Cs to form a completion. Imagine two leafs drifting in a flowing river. Each one has a different weight and is affected by the water movement differently. In a long journey, it is very hard for them to drift at the same pace and stay complete the whole time. Also in order to catch up with each other and the water flow, they drag, pull and struggle. Eventually they get exhausted. “This is a classical co-dependent relationship and it has built-in problems that begin to arise sooner or later. “
The O type is self-contained, complete by itself and has a sense of wholeness. There are many things we cannot obtain from the other person. It has to come from within, such as inner happiness, security, fearlessness, love, passion and the purpose of life. Other people can help and facilitate. You might not agree with this, claiming you’ve gotten the things mentioned above from your loved one. Yes, it is a state of completion with two Cs. For some lucky ones, this completion can last for their whole life. But most of us have experienced that for only a short time and eventually lose it.
“We have to complete the circle on our own. We have to stabilize our channel with the universe. That takes time, but afterward we are never susceptible to this problem again and we can have what is called a higher-relationship. When we connect romantically with another whole person after that, we create a super-person…but it never pulls us from the path of our individual evolution. “
Does it mean we don’t need each other?
Usually a whole person can live a happy life. But two Os will form a higher-relationship. They will both be able to give love, make themselves stronger and make the relationship more enjoyable. It is like two heavenly bodies. They may rotate around each other independently and yet embrace each other gently through gravitational pull.
The reason I am here to write this piece is that I used to be a C type and now I’m committed to becoming a O type: a strong, self-contained and free spirited person who is capable of loving and being loved. It feels wonderful, giving plenty of space to each other, helping each other grow and growing together without control and holding back.
For single souls who are searching for the other part, it might be a better idea to look within. 99% of what you need can be supplied by yourself. But the change can only be initiated internally. After you obtain the 99% and you will attract the other person who is holding that critical 1%. The combination will create a great experience of love, wholeness and happiness.
Sounds like a cliché? Well, It has been very true for me.
Becoming and maintaining O type take lifelong effort and commitment. It is not easy but very rewarding. Is it the purpose of our life? Only you can answer that question.
Thanks for reading.
January 1, 2004 Hawaii
Coming…
爱情新解（7) Pain killer
爱情新解（8) Life integration
P.S. If you feel inspired and elated, please give me some feedbacks. I believe we all live in an energy field. When the vibration is at the same frequency, we can feel that. By supporting each other, that will increase the collective energy level and uplift all the people involved更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
“The Celestine Prophecy” by James Redfield gave a very convincing explanation. It is about C and O.
In the early stage of love, we all feel energetic and elated. The sky is higher and the grass is greener. We feel our hearts beat together and we can do lots of extraordinary things. When the incredible high wears off, we get down to the ground and start a “real life”. After one year, seven years or fifteen years, the relationship gets boring, dull and colorless if it hasn't already turned into conflict. For some people, the other person whom they chose and loved becomes an enemy.
Why does it happen?
According to his theory, everything in the world is all energy in different form, the same with human beings. We all need energy to sustain our being.
“We are very susceptible to a person of the opposite sex, some other circle half complete, like the letter C, coming up and joining with us-completing the circle that way, and giving us a burst of euphoria and energy that feels like the wholeness that a full connection with the universe produces.”
We need two Cs to form a completion. Imagine two leafs drifting in a flowing river. Each one has a different weight and is affected by the water movement differently. In a long journey, it is very hard for them to drift at the same pace and stay complete the whole time. Also in order to catch up with each other and the water flow, they drag, pull and struggle. Eventually they get exhausted. “This is a classical co-dependent relationship and it has built-in problems that begin to arise sooner or later. “
The O type is self-contained, complete by itself and has a sense of wholeness. There are many things we cannot obtain from the other person. It has to come from within, such as inner happiness, security, fearlessness, love, passion and the purpose of life. Other people can help and facilitate. You might not agree with this, claiming you’ve gotten the things mentioned above from your loved one. Yes, it is a state of completion with two Cs. For some lucky ones, this completion can last for their whole life. But most of us have experienced that for only a short time and eventually lose it.
“We have to complete the circle on our own. We have to stabilize our channel with the universe. That takes time, but afterward we are never susceptible to this problem again and we can have what is called a higher-relationship. When we connect romantically with another whole person after that, we create a super-person…but it never pulls us from the path of our individual evolution. “
Does it mean we don’t need each other?
Usually a whole person can live a happy life. But two Os will form a higher-relationship. They will both be able to give love, make themselves stronger and make the relationship more enjoyable. It is like two heavenly bodies. They may rotate around each other independently and yet embrace each other gently through gravitational pull.
The reason I am here to write this piece is that I used to be a C type and now I’m committed to becoming a O type: a strong, self-contained and free spirited person who is capable of loving and being loved. It feels wonderful, giving plenty of space to each other, helping each other grow and growing together without control and holding back.
For single souls who are searching for the other part, it might be a better idea to look within. 99% of what you need can be supplied by yourself. But the change can only be initiated internally. After you obtain the 99% and you will attract the other person who is holding that critical 1%. The combination will create a great experience of love, wholeness and happiness.
Sounds like a cliché? Well, It has been very true for me.
Becoming and maintaining O type take lifelong effort and commitment. It is not easy but very rewarding. Is it the purpose of our life? Only you can answer that question.
Thanks for reading.
January 1, 2004 Hawaii
Coming…
爱情新解（7) Pain killer
爱情新解（8) Life integration
P.S. If you feel inspired and elated, please give me some feedbacks. I believe we all live in an energy field. When the vibration is at the same frequency, we can feel that. By supporting each other, that will increase the collective energy level and uplift all the people involved更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net