94, 俺咋觉得应该能，婚姻不该只有一种模式。
-spagetti(hot hot hot);
2005-11-1{96}(#2584590@0)
而且这样的婚姻应该可以长久，因为灵魂相知好象很不容易找的到的。有时候，精神上的交流好象更为重要。
it is easy to go in a marriage like that. however, the problem is how long you can stay there and how ugly it will be if you try to get out.
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2005-11-1(#2584655@0)
A life without marriage is not complete. A life without love is not worth living.
-fiona_young(fiona);
2005-11-1(#2584676@0)
there are more unhappy marriages than happy marriages -- it is hard to justify the necessity and benefit of marriage.
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2005-11-1{215}(#2584831@0)
it is more of a personal choice than anything else. if someone does not have love or cannot give love for all his/her life than something is wrong with that person -- then he should question the meaning of his life.
Marriage is only good when you are with the right one...when you are feeling happy...otherwise you should give it a thought...
-fiona_young(fiona);
2005-11-1(#2584843@0)
then what is the purpose of marriage if you need a divorce every 3 or 5 years.
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2005-11-1{153}(#2584853@0)
the fantasy of perfect marriage originates from the false assumption that people do not change.
the truth is that we change faster than our environment.
It's not because we change...it depends on if the two people change at same pace...
-fiona_young(fiona);
2005-11-1(#2584893@0)
what is the chance of two people change together at the same pace? it is a nice dream but does not work with statistics
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2005-11-1(#2584976@0)
I know...it is sad though...that's why I think how you feel is most important, marriage does not necessarily brings your happiness....
-fiona_young(fiona);
2005-11-1{153}(#2584990@0)
when you are in a relationship/marriage, cherish it...make efforts/compromises to make it work...because nobody knows what is going to happen tomorrow...
Agreed...can't imagine a marriage without love...it takes time...to meet the right one at the right time...
-fiona_young(fiona);
2005-11-1(#2584718@0)
it does not take long to meet the right one at the right time, for love but a projection of our subjective feeling and belief -- it has nothing to do with the object.
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2005-11-1{130}(#2584859@0)
the problem is how to convince yourself that is the right person and how to keep such belief -- even when yourself keeps changing
You're just talking about yourself man.
-labelle(㊣完美的海盗);
2005-11-1(#2584906@0)
the virtue of philosophy is to make general rules out of individual experience -- only animal remains on individual level
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2005-11-1(#2584967@0)
If he/she is not your soulmate, where is the passion from?
-fiona_young(fiona);
2005-11-1(#2584880@0)
a passionate person will project his/her passion onto a stone. an impassionate person will have no passion even with the most perfect person in the world
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2005-11-1(#2584974@0)
passion and soulmating are two contradictory concepts.
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2005-11-1{541}(#2584848@0)
a long-lived passion is as unthinkable as a flower that never withers -- it is against the law of nature.
one has to decide what he/she is really after -- some kind of passion to die for? or a peaceful marriage that fulfills it's life cycle without too much excitement or surprise.
you need enough guts to pursue the former, for you most likely will end up as a lonely soul who will not even have a grave-digger. and you need enough wisdom to test the later, for you can lose your bet of life at any time, for any reason, and to anybody.
people marry for money, green card, citizenship. only the lucky ones marry for love. or shall we say the dumb ones?
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2005-11-1{278}(#2585021@0)
they still have sex, even if they marry for reasons other than love.
marriage in nowadays is more of a team of convenience than the consumation of love.
so you either lower your expectation to come to term with modern marriage. or you remain a purist and stay out of marriage.
你这人真有意思,强把自己所谓的PHILOSOPHY加到别人头上.可笑.我见过的MARRY FOR LOVE而且非常HAPPY的多得很,也有所谓的MARRY FOR CONVENIENCE 过得很局促悲哀,所以不需要你的指导.谢谢.
-labelle(㊣完美的海盗);
2005-11-1(#2585046@0)
I did not mean to impose anything on anyone. we just give comments (actually, our 2 cents) for free here.
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2005-11-1{236}(#2585087@0)
I don't think in today's world there is anyone who seriously wantsto teach something or even to advise something to other people -- unless he is out of his mind. Even "teachers" on campus are only moderators of discussion sessions.