Maybe customize the relationship at the first place, maybe it will last longer, then you do not need to fix it later.
-duck_nj(盐水鸭);
2003-12-29(#1535495@0)
yes, if we take care of things...usually they can last longer
-dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年);
2003-12-29(#1535528@0)
"Is it insecurity, face, fear, a sense of failure, uncertainty about the future, lack of confidence that keep us from taking the next step? "
very good point.
-secretgarden(跳跳蓝莓);
2003-12-29(#1535606@0)
既然你知道什么样的馅用什么样的皮, 那请你告知以下概念的内涵和外延, 并做成好吃的饺子, 分给大家: friend, boy (girl) friend, feeling, love, marriage, sex, child and life.most of people make confusion. sometimes they use same concept expressing different meaning, opposite, they use different concepts expressing same things.
I think they also the key point of your answer by #1533712
-goingout(freshair);
2003-12-29{216}(#1535881@0)
经过evolution的爱情是修补吗? 进化是自然选择的过程, 爱情的升华也是一样 ==== 如果, 努力地去主观定义自己的爱情和对另一半的塑造, 从另一个角度来看, 不是对人性的最大扭曲吗?当然, 偶很同意你对evolution的意见. 其实, PRIDE AND PREJUDICE里面的俩人都没有刻意地去修补出现的裂痕, 而是自然地去缝合. 做针线活的, 不是他们俩个, 而是自然的本性.
-happytears(挥一挥轻袖...);
2003-12-29{159}(#1535661@0)
love is not "not black, but red". it is a mixed. Most of people dont know exactly where is the line to decide to repare or throw away, depending tp their feeling.
-goingout(freshair);
2003-12-29(#1535811@0)
Do a cost analysis :P
-dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年);
2003-12-30(#1538257@0)
Sometimes, people even do a feasibility analysis while they are caught in a trap of so-called love.Attitude means everything. Love is a chemical, but not everyone wants to be poisoned at any price. If the person you are attracted to only wants a flash in pan, what are you gonna do?
-beentaken(whatever);
2004-1-1{183}(#1540245@0)
后面的“爱情新解（10）Love is such a beautiful thing”会说到这个问题。简单地说，如果这不是你想要的，那也不是合适的。另外一方面，我们要审视自己，自己要得是否太多？这里得太多的意思是本来有些东西只能从你自己身上获得的而我们却希望对方给予：比如安全感，个人感觉真正的security来自自己。还有一辈子的许诺，too heavy，只能是一个良好的愿望。
也许我马上贴出来的
爱情新解（6) Are you C type or O type?
能解答一部分你的问题？
-dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年);
2004-1-1{203}(#1540256@0)