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枫下佳缘 / 快乐单身 / 能否透露一下隐私：单身母亲或者父亲，能说说你们是为什么、怎么分手的么？加拿大真是婚姻的杀手！？
-howcomescanada(归去来);
2006-1-7
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我算是单身父亲了，简单说来就是性格的差异造成俩人协同困难，生活中许多
事情并无对错。但性格不同各有各的想法。整合意见分歧困难而产生矛盾。日积月
擂最后只好各奔前程。希望这样大家活得都轻松点。需要说明的是这不是加拿大的错。我们在中国时矛盾也一样多。
-talkdirectly(有话直说);
2006-1-7
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But why were you divoced in Canada not in China?
-asker(asker);
2006-1-7
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我们已在加国多年。要在中国的话还不知能否熬到今天。因此，在这种意义上，我还
感激加国使我们能有如此长的婚姻了。另外，我们还没有“DIVORCE”。
-talkdirectly(有话直说);
2006-1-7
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You 感激? Why? Does a marriage that is filled with problems and unhappiness deserve such a long time duration? Don't you think it is a torture?
-asker(asker);
2006-1-7
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在我看来，婚姻是如此的伟大奇妙，那怕是多一秒都是
值得称颂的。
-talkdirectly(有话直说);
2006-1-7
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Then why are you on the way to get divorced?
-asker(asker);
2006-1-7
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这也正是婚姻的奇妙之处。真实存在的婚姻是男欢女爱能享天隆之乐的。然而它赖以
生存的条件不再具备时，婚姻之路自然就走到尽头了。
-talkdirectly(有话直说);
2006-1-7
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“男欢女爱”后面就没有有同甘共苦，道德人伦了吗？
-lostindarkness(lostpeople);
2006-1-7
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男欢女爱 is irrational, while 道德人伦 is rational. Marriage without 男欢女爱 and with only 道德人伦 is not a good marriage. Speaking for myself, I won't stay in a marriage just for fulfilling 道德人伦.
-asker(asker);
2006-1-7
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呵呵，小丫头，你自己都说了“男欢女爱 is irrational,”，那是不能长久的。我想你现在所想的是结婚是因为爱，我想你这个年纪是做梦的年纪一开始我们可以是为了男欢女爱 才结婚。但要维持这个婚姻长久，单靠男欢女爱是不行的。男欢女爱最后都会变成亲情，友情，责任，义务，如果两方都想维持这个婚姻的话。
-lostindarkness(lostpeople);
2006-1-7
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So your point is that marriage without love but responsibility is a good one?
-asker(asker);
2006-1-7
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我不知道是我中文没写好，还是你看不懂中文.my point is that marriages go through stages. 男欢女爱just the first stage, there are many stages after that.
-lostindarkness(lostpeople);
2006-1-7
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I understand what you said, just that I think 男欢女爱 is going through all stages of a healthy marriage, not just in the first stage, because 男欢女爱 including sex is the basis of a successful marriage.
-asker(asker);
2006-1-8
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Haven't you heard how many couples got divorced because of their incompatibility or even absence of sexual life? So I think 男欢女爱 is a key.
-asker(asker);
2006-1-8
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I am a 小丫头? Gee, I am blushing. :)
-asker(asker);
2006-1-7
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Your comments sound like that. Sound you understand, but, acutally you do not. You do not really understand what is marriage.
-lostindarkness(lostpeople);
2006-1-7
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I feel sad that a marriage takes responsibility over feelings.
-asker(asker);
2006-1-8
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If marriage is based on things other than love, it is reasonable and natural that husbands or wives stay in marriage while having extramarital affairs, isn't it?
-asker(asker);
2006-1-7
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what happens to faith, obligation and responsibility??? they still have faith, obligations and responsibilities to each other. Why do you think of extramarital affairs??
-lostindarkness(lostpeople);
2006-1-7
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I absolutely agree that a healthy marriage isn't only about feelings, but also about commitment and responsibility, however, in my view, if feelings are gone, only responsibility is left, that marriage is dead.
-asker(asker);
2006-1-8
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I think there is a balance among 男欢女爱, faith and responsibility, and once the balance is gone, the marriage may lose its true meaning and stay only in theory.
-asker(asker);
2006-1-8
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No, separate first and then look for new life.
-talkdirectly(有话直说);
2006-1-7
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Sounds like you still cherish your marriage, then why cannot you try to make up and get it back? After all, you are not divorced yet, and you still have a chance, don't you?
-asker(asker);
2006-1-8
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呵呵，看出问题出在哪里了
-gnits(mafia);
2006-1-7
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I support your potential divorce. Marriage is not just a job , but a job of both feelings and responsibility. The loss of marital feelings is that of one of the marital bases.
-asker(asker);
2006-1-7
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"在我看来，婚姻是如此的伟大奇妙，那怕是多一秒都是值得称颂的"--很对路和很感动的话！
-somewhere(身为女人);
2006-1-7
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这都是过后怀念，当时不知道珍惜。其实婚姻就像细水长流，平淡不惊。
-howcomescanada(归去来);
2006-1-8
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在我看来，愿意走进婚姻的角色的，都需要很大勇气。肯用心去维持，更是难得。
-somewhere(身为女人);
2006-1-8
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我的观点是：愿意再次走进婚姻的角色的，都需要很大勇气。肯用心去维持，更是难得。
-armani7(刹那芳华);
2006-1-8
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I think most people get married not for a divorce but for a wonderful dream to live till death do their apart, so I believe most couples do 用心去维持 their marriages,just that reality is more complicated than human hearts, so sometimes, no matter how hard they try, still they may fail.
-asker(asker);
2006-1-8
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What is 单身母亲/父亲?
-fullmoonnight(老狼);
2006-1-7
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聪明！总是欣赏和尊重单身母亲，未婚的单身！
-somewhere(身为女人);
2006-1-9
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加拿大不是婚姻的杀手。贫穷，自私，自利才是这些不幸的婚姻的杀手。在国内，婚姻看来好好的，因为大家有工作，有经济来源，不要为柴油米盐来操心。来加拿大后，因为贫穷，一个人没有工作，或两个人都没有工作，生活紧张了，什么事情都开始发生了，也顾不得爱不爱情，感不感情的，也顾不得责任不责任的，道德也抛一边，为了谋求自己的物质，金钱上的享受，就分手了。道理就这么简单。
-lostindarkness(lostpeople);
2006-1-7
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Sounds reasonable.
-clearicewater(sleepy);
2006-1-7
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好像国内的富人离婚的也很多。
-ustax(roliatax);
2006-1-7
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穷人家的老婆留不住 - 谁的错？男人无能？女人财迷？- 人往高处走，水往低处流，谁都没错！
-survivor76(蝴蝶花);
2006-1-7
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谁都没有错，错就错在这些人的道德伦理都以丧失。
-lostindarkness(lostpeople);
2006-1-7
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道德伦理? 不同的时期有不同的定义...
-netant(网蚁);
2006-1-7
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Right! 生活让人思考，让人明白发生的事情。
-nice_mom(so nice);
2006-1-7
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贫穷不一定是凶手，最可怕的是夫妻没有一起进取的心。
-armani7(刹那芳华);
2006-1-7
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Great point.
-asker(asker);
2006-1-8
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或者是一进一退的选择。那只能劳燕分飞了。
-nice_mom(so nice);
2006-1-8
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如果决定结婚时，跟贫富无关，那么离婚跟贫富也应该无关吧？不明白的是，是不是
在加拿大离婚对女人保障多一点，怎么那么多的女人动不动就问：要不要离婚？
-somewhere(身为女人);
2006-1-9
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昨天一宿没睡，精神状态还是癫狂的，这么说吧，我昨晚打了个电话给他的老婆，我已经无法控制自己的行为了，我喜欢玉石具焚，看情况他们今天晚上合家去看ROLIA 的晚会，我的难过不晓得怎么说，可是不说我怕自己会自杀
-swallow0119(swallow);
2006-1-8
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你怎么了？说说看。
-yumig(苦恼);
2006-1-8
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是的，难过死了
-swallow0119(swallow);
2006-1-8
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你是第三者吧？在你迈出当第三者的第一步时，你就应该估计到今天的后果，就应该有思想准备的，所以，坚强些面对你自己的选择吧。
-yumig(苦恼);
2006-1-8
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Does that man deserve your 玉石具焚? Ask yourself this question again and again. Some men are just not worthwhile.
-asker(asker);
2006-1-8
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对自已的行为要负责任，何必过在没有阳光的日子里。
-nice_mom(so nice);
2006-1-8
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第三者从来就是可耻的.你得到教训才好.
-wakengduizhang(teamleader);
2006-1-8
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好好好,玉石具焚,有性格!这样吧,把那个男人的名字和ID公布出来,那就真的玉石俱焚了,看以后还有人敢这样吃窝边草吗!
-lifejgb(信不信由你);
2006-1-8
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他要真爱你， 就不应该令你这么痛苦， 离开他吧， 天底下好男人多的是
-ibelieveicanfly(东边日出西边雨);
2006-1-8
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the reason of >90% fight between a couple is money and only 10% is third part of marriage. So贫穷 is number 1, but canada.
-hucan(whocan);
2006-1-8
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It's not Canada.It's the chiniese style marriage.Many chinese marriage are not for love but for "It's time to get married" or for any kind of pressure.When people get out of china,they starting to realize there is another kind of life and marriage.So all the problems keeps coming out in the new envirement especially when you don't have a dream life.
-whocares9(I do);
2006-1-8
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人性的丑恶 -- 自私, 贪婪, 嫉妒, 说谎等等才是婚姻的杀手, 也是人今天腐败, 堕落, 不快乐的根源.
-crystal_clear(水晶心);
2006-1-9
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