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枫下佳缘 / 快乐单身 / 为什么现在的男人宁愿分手也坚决不结婚，而女人却把婚姻看得这么重？最近朋友都因为逼婚不成而分手，只因男人觉得结婚很吃亏。
一起7-8年，因为要结婚而分手，真有的讲不过来
婚姻对男女有这么天和地的区别？
他们的理由是：
虽然很多结婚了的也是会离，那我们为什么要去结婚？
认真可以变成游戏，游戏久了也可以假戏真做，何必一早就去搞清楚是游戏还是认真？
听起来好像很有理由
大虾们有何特别的见解？
-nemonemo(QTnemo ^0^);
2007-1-3
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because 那是傻姑娘
-geoguy(let_it_snow);
2007-1-3
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Definitely.
-asker(amour);
2007-1-3
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I can tell you that the majority of men are NOT marriage haters or refusers, even though the media keep exaggerating the not-true-at-all phenomenon. Just because your friend refused to marry this one doesn't mean he won't marry another one.I wonder why this woman started to 逼婚 after she had willingly co-habited with that man for 7-8 years instead of doing it in the first place. When a man could have free lunch for 7-8 years, why should he ....?
-asker(amour);
2007-1-3
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free lunch, hmm, what a brilliant concept!
-geoguy(let_it_snow);
2007-1-3
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for those guys don't want to get marry but with their girl friends for more than 7-8 years. what they really want?just keep in this kind of relationship forever? and why girls want to get marry? why girls don't want to just keep in this kind of relationship?
why human being need to get marry?
-nemonemo(QTnemo ^0^);
2007-1-3
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Why human beings wanna get married? I guess they want stability and protection that can only be ensured by legislation generated by marriage. Go statistics Canada, you will find thatthere is always more than half of the national population thinking about marriage and yearning for marriage, despite of how many people are getting scared by it.
-asker(amour);
2007-1-3
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加拿大的法律使然。结婚对男人来说就是一纸卖身契。婚姻失败的话，男人几乎会一无所有，而且再翻身也很难。
-sadman2004(sadman);
2007-1-3
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那个是对于男方个人自身条件远远好于女方的情况下才成立的。
-tracyd(假若明天来临);
2007-1-3
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There is always Prenuptial Agreements.
-babyface(★又来了，又来了。★);
2007-1-3
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你们没有理解我说的。离婚男人基本上得不到孩子，经济上更任人宰割，甚至不能维持自己的生活，而且这种状态可能要持续20年，一辈子就毁了。而女人可以利用孩子得到很多。
-sadman2004(sadman);
2007-1-4
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that is 100% true.
-wnms2000(乘风归去);
2007-1-6
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女人婚前不知道婚姻其实不值得那么看重. 要免费做饭, 清洁, 生孩子之痛, 带孩子之累, 还要上班, AA制的供家用. 男人婚后有了人照顾, 免费保姆, 厨师, 情人. 他不想结婚? 笑话. 除非他大富大贵, 怕离婚分了他身家. 这儿有谁大富大贵了? 还怕人分了身家? 省省吧.
-reversephycho(逆向思维);
2007-1-3
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有几个这样的好女人？结婚太冒险
-gaoshen(chubby);
2007-1-3
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Living together has the same benefit.
-wnms2000(乘风归去);
2007-1-6
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那是她们找的人不想结婚。那么多单身男性在征婚，不可以偏概全哈。：）
-starinfo(八戒：九尺钉耙火贪刀);
2007-1-3
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就是，谁说男人不想结婚？
-wktoronto(莫愁前路无知己);
2007-1-4
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因为不适合，这男人坚持了7-8年实在不容易，终于有了分手的借口当然赶快抓住。
-marijuana(_);
2007-1-4
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这个男生不厚道，这个女生不聪明
-sr-71(Blackbird);
2007-1-4
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行动与仪式的分别如果结婚是一个对亲戚朋友宣布你们会不论贫穷富贵都会好好照顾对方的话，
没有这个仪式，他们仍然可以做到，
那这仪式有没有也无所谓
如果仪式过后，所有都抛于脑外，那仪式也是一场戏
今天的相爱，可能明天不再
今天的冷漠，可能明天很火
既然未知数这么多，婚姻的受害者是女人，带着离婚和小孩的名义让心仪的男生却步。
我们还是勇敢地去爱，为什么害怕结婚的是男人
没有婚姻的一起，有多少女人可以接受？
-nemonemo(QTnemo ^0^);
2007-1-4
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"没有婚姻的一起，有多少女人可以接受？" At least I, as a woman, will not 接受. If a man truly loves a woman, why can't he give her a marriage? If a man truly loves a woman, why is he afraid to get married?
-asker(amour);
2007-1-4
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He is afraid of the bullshit canadian laws instead of the marriage. This case is usual for the immigrants: She is unfaithful to him, then he loses everything but still has to give her money and support kids whom he can't live with.
-sadman2004(sadman);
2007-1-4
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I agree that the law is not completely fair to men in terms of child custody, but it is not true that judges love to see or make men 不能维持自己的生活. Besides, the law is changing in favour of divorced guys due to men's movement.
-asker(amour);
2007-1-4
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In other words, what you guys really need to do is to change the law NOT stay away from marriage which is what you actually want.
-asker(amour);
2007-1-4
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true....why stay away from marriage...two different world ppl can live together isn't that easy and quite lucky..
-nemonemo(QTnemo ^0^);
2007-1-4
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You must be kidding. change the law? You are a naive girl.
-sadman2004(sadman);
2007-1-4
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In history, black could not eat/play/even sit in the bus with white, but now they can, can't they? The law is indeed changing in favour of divorced guys due to men's movement just like women's movement brought women the right to vote.
-asker(amour);
2007-1-4
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Also what kind attitude is it that thinking about the possible divorce before or during marriage?
-asker(amour);
2007-1-4
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Men just don't want to take the risk which they can not afford. But you don't need to worry. Men are different. Not every man thinks this way.
-sadman2004(sadman);
2007-1-4
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Thanks, actually the majority of men are still for marriage, not against it.
-asker(amour);
2007-1-4
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我们还是勇敢地去爱，为什么害怕结婚的是男人 -->因为有些东西你还没了解到。（别回帖，我也不知道）
-647i(流浪的步行万里);
2007-1-4
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男人害怕完全的付出，怎么可以真正爱过。也是因为世态的虚伪，我们不得不小心付出。是人的错还是社会的错呀。
-nemonemo(QTnemo ^0^);
2007-1-4
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虽说唐僧废话很多，但他很朴实，也很执著。但是孙悟空就是觉得跟他很无奈。 谁的错？
-647i(流浪的步行万里);
2007-1-4
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因为男人是弱势群体，经不起折腾。
-nodream(～～～);
2007-1-4
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只是女人比男人更坚强而已
-nemonemo(QTnemo ^0^);
2007-1-4
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和坚强无关。男人挣得都是辛苦钱，一滴汗落地上摔八瓣儿那种，有时候辛辛苦苦积攒点家当，一走眼就没了。所以在低头紧着拉车时，也时不常抬头看看路。
-nodream(～～～);
2007-1-4
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强势群体更经不起被折腾成弱势群体。何况在不同的视角下，强势，弱势的界定还不明确尼。
-647i(流浪的步行万里);
2007-1-4
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唉，多说无益。只是奇怪，女方为什么愿意和他相处7，8年？难道一直不知道他是一个从一开始就担心，怕吃她的亏的男人？
-happysmile(快乐小路);
2007-1-4
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他和她是正常的一对，并没有谁想去吃谁的亏
-nemonemo(QTnemo ^0^);
2007-1-4
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The mistake is that the woman didn't speak up her mind in the first place.
-asker(amour);
2007-1-4
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no...even women speak up at the beginning,still men act the same
-nemonemo(QTnemo ^0^);
2007-1-4
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If the man behaved still the same, the woman could leave him earlier instead of 7-8 years later, right? The more early the woman left the man, the more easily the woman could have a chance to get married to another one.
-asker(amour);
2007-1-4
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教你一妙药：如果男人是好的话，你学学小Ｓ，以小孩逼婚。如果男人不怎么样，你也就别想和他结婚了。
-haoshi(haoshi);
2007-1-4
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How many women can have the luck as xiao S? 以小孩逼婚 is one of the worst strategies. Being dumped by a man is bad enough, and being dumped with his child is even worse.
-asker(amour);
2007-1-4
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这一招也太没性格了吧
-nemonemo(QTnemo ^0^);
2007-1-4
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套套刺洞洞；饭饭下药药。
-ra_95(小人*无聊一族);
2007-1-4
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哈哈. 笑死我了.这招儿你用过?
-rita1(rita);
2007-1-5
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Marriage is not a word, is a sentence -life long sentence
Marraige is an institution where man loses his bachelor's degree, woman gets her masters
-calandria(小阿瞒);
2007-1-4
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谁说男人不愿意结婚，要是给我早就同意了，可是哪有哪个女孩嫁给我这个穷人呢？
-manitoulan(三文鱼);
2007-1-5
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男人在找借口吧，明说就是对这个女人不满意，做玩伴可以，但是不想和她结婚。
-yoyohudie(孩子她妈);
2007-1-5
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ai..why why why
-nemonemo(QTnemo ^0^);
2007-1-5
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I think the woman knew why, but was reluctant to face the fact, so that she tried 7 or 8 years to wait, which still didn't work.
-asker(amour);
2007-1-5
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Time to step back to think. look at it as an opportunity to communicate deeply and find out if he is the right person.Many times there's no why, guess he is just not that into the woman. it doesn't mean the woman is not good, it is just he couldn't see the good in woman. Or the relationship is not really that good, at least they do have communication and understanding problem.
-gigibydesk(gigi);
2007-1-5
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wondering if you girl only stick to the relationship which potentially lead to marriage?
-geoguy(what_is_changing);
2007-1-5
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Realistically speaking, yes, the majority of women do, western or eastern.
-asker(amour);
2007-1-5
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Believe it or not, women are much more practical and realistic than men.
-asker(amour);
2007-1-5
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I am so surprise that is coming from your mouth. You seemed to be a woman living in the movie, where romantics is overwhelming
-geoguy(what_is_changing);
2007-1-5
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Women might go romantic at movies, news, TV shows, but NOT relationships.
-asker(amour);
2007-1-5
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Is Qiong Yao romantic? No.
-asker(amour);
2007-1-5
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so where are those nice female in the movies coming from?
-geoguy(what_is_changing);
2007-1-5
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You may need to ask Qiong Yao, though. Have a great weekend. :)
-asker(amour);
2007-1-5
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don't be UPSET or so MAD, let's skating tomorrow night, i am going to forward-backward-forward and trun 180.
-donstation(迎接零零七);
2007-1-5
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oh...man u r so good at it already? coming on...
-nemonemo(QTnemo ^0^);
2007-1-5
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我想结婚, 找不到想结婚的女人
-feng168(feng);
2007-1-6
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我想skating, 找不到想skating的人
-donstation(迎接零零七);
2007-1-6
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我不想结婚, 找不到不想结婚的女人
-geoguy(what_is_changing);
2007-1-6
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